Raising Children With a Beautiful Biblical View of Marriage

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The institute of marriage is under attack in society today. Failing marriages often lead to broken and vulnerable families, and that is exactly what the enemy is after. However, marriage is God’s idea. It is a covenant designed by Him. We can get to the root of the issue and create generations of healthy marriages by raising children with a biblical view of marriage. Let’s explore God’s word to discover how.

Children Learn by Observing

You may have discovered that children learn through observation. They watch you and pick up on things very quickly. They’re little sponges ready to soak up their environment and emulate what they see.

If you’re like me, you’ve looked at your child and thought to yourself, “Wow, she must’ve gotten that from me!” I notice mannerisms and behaviors in my daughter that she obviously learned from my husband and me.

At just 2 years old, she loves to cook, bake, do laundry, and wash dishes because she observes me doing these things on a daily basis. It’s becoming part of her.

As mothers, we can be intentional about the things our children observe. What is their primary example of love, marriage, and family? Is it Disney movies and children’s books? Children are aware of the family unit very early in life.

If you’re married, use that to your advantage to teach the value and beauty of marriage. These values can be instilled into even the youngest child.

Allow your children to see you and your husband interact, express affection, be kind, pray together, serve one another, etc. They’re already watching you anyway, so seek to provide them with a great example.

Your example will ultimately shape their views and opinions about marriage as they get older.

Modeling Biblical Views

It’s important that we model godly marriage so that our children will develop healthy biblical views of marriage. This ultimately will challenge us as wives to commit to God’s blueprint for marriage and it is so worth it.

In the event that you are an unmarried mom or you’re unable to provide a godly example of marriage, pray and ask God for wisdom on how to handle your specific situation. Teach your children what God’s word says about marriage and have open and candid conversations that are appropriate for their age.

Allow your children to see and spend time with married couples and families that you believe would be able to provide a great example of what a healthy Christian marriage looks like. The key is to allow your child to be exposed to healthy, strong, godly marriages. Let them see that marriage does last when done God’s way.

Also, be mindful of the types of music that they’re hearing. Much of the music now is full of filth and promotes adultery, fornication, and sin. Instead, play songs that will encourage marriage by God’s design.

My husband is a music producer and has written songs that promote marriage God’s way. You can find them below to give you an example of the type of quality Christian content to look for and expose your children to. Music gets into the spirit of your child and ultimately shapes his or her worldview. Therefore, you want to be sure you play good, clean, wholesome music that teaches biblical values and promotes marriage and family.

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What is a Biblical View of Marriage?

Let’s look at what the bible has to say about marriage. Afterall, it is God’s blueprint for us so that we can cultivate beautiful marriages for His glory.

1. Husband and Wife are ONE

When a man and a woman get married they become one flesh, There should be no division within the union. After God, they are one another’s top priority, even before their parents. Many people miss this, but your husband comes before your mom and dad (and even your children). Your children should be able to observe this.

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be[a] joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24  NKJV

2. The husband is the head of the home. God designed him to be the leader in the family unit. Wives are called to submit. While this isn’t popular in today’s culture, it is what the word of God says. It is our responsibility to teach our children God’s way of doing things AND to live it out before them. Read your bible for the rest of the verses after the one below which give instructions on how the husband is to treat his wife.

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Ephesians 5:22-24 NKJV

Specific to Wives

3. Wives should not be quarrelsome and argumentative. Cultivate a marriage and home of peace. Your children will grow up with the ability to determine what type of wife you were as they were growing up. That will shape their perspective on how wives are supposed to be. 

Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, Than in a house shared with a contentious woman. Proverbs 21:9 NKJV

4. Wives are created to be helpers to their husbands. A wife’s role is not to be a boss babe and build an empire while neglecting her husband and family. Do your children get to witness you being an effective help-meet to your husband? Are you helping him fulfill the call of God on His life as Eve was created to do for Adam? Study the word and note the consequences of what happened when she stepped away from her role to do her own thing.

And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18 NKJV

5. Love and respect should be pillars in your home and marriage. Allow your children to see the way your husband loves you and also the way you respect your husband. The respect piece can be a tricky one for many wives, so be sure to evaluate this honestly. If this area needs growth in your marriage, work on it because you’re teaching your kids something. Are you teaching them God’s way, or your way of doing things? God’s way is ALWAYS best!

Nevertheless, let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. Ephesians 5:33 NKJV

6. Determine that divorce is not an option. Instead of teaching your children that divorce is common and a way of life, teach them that marriage is intended to be lifelong. Advocate for the longevity of godly marriages.

But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except [a]sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery. Matthew 5:32 NKJV

For God’s Glory

I understand that everyone’s situation and past experiences are different. However, God’s word should be the ultimate authority for us all. When we repent, God forgives us of past mistakes and we are to turn away from those sins to follow Christ. Regardless of your life story, I encourage you to make it your duty to teach your children what God says about marriage and His intent for it.

In a world where so many incorrect viewpoints and examples are thrust into the limelight, we as Christians must be sure to train our children in the way they should go. This doesn’t happen by chance or accident. We must be intentional and keep God’s ways before them. His way is the best way. As mothers, let’s be sure to set our children up for success by doing all things for God’s glory. Together, we can raise up a generation who has a healthy biblical view of marriage.

Awwww!

Here is one of my FAVORITE songs! My husband wrote this song about me LONG before we even met each other or knew one another existed! It is the sweetest thing and turned out to be so accurate. It pays to let God order our steps. This is the fruit of raising children with a beautiful biblical view of marriage!

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